Archive for September, 2010


Rejection…

Rejection

The word “rejection” was first used in 1415.[citation needed] The original meaning was “to throw” or “to throw back”.

Our sense of rejection tells us that we care about the other person and that we care about some part of ourselves or our activities. The other element I think that contributes to how intensely we feel rejection is how it is done. by Evan Hadkins

We don’t like rejection, and yet it can be a bit puzzling why we don’t. To explain why I’m puzzled I’d like to tell a brief story.

Imagine a body-builder walks into the office of a body oriented psychotherapist. The body builder has been working out for years and so has ‘good development’ in the eyes of other body builders (his musculature is well defined and so on). The body oriented psychotherapist tells the body builder that he is ‘armoured’ in the eyes of body oriented psychotherapists (the musculature doesn’t allow free flowing expression of emotion and so on). Would the body builder experience this as a kind of rejection?

If it is experienced as rejection, what is being rejected? The muscular development remains the same before and after the body oriented psychotherapist’s comment. The body builder is still the same person.

If I was to imagine myself as this bodybuilder I would perhaps feel that my whole prior commitment was being questioned. If so, I would experience the body oriented psychotherapist’s comment as a rejection.

Could I imagine not perceiving the comment as a rejection? I think so. I might dismiss the body oriented psychotherapist as not worth listening to — perhaps because he has poor muscular development, for instance.

Why We Feel Rejection

It seems to me that the sting of rejection is in proportion to how much we care about the person rejecting us. Our feeling of rejection shows how much we care about the other person.

Being told we have done a bad job, or even that we have done something bad, is different to being told that we are a bad person.

I think too that what is being rejected makes a difference. There is a difference between criticising our actions and our selves. “Being told we have done a bad job, or even that we have done something bad, is different to being told that we are a bad person.”

The intensity of the feeling of rejection depends not only on how much we care about the other person, but also on how much we care about what is being criticised.

If you were to say that a painting I have done is rubbish, I would probably agree with little trouble. (I’m not much good at painting — what happens in layers of paint I find baffling.) To say this to someone who is a painter may be very different. If you were to criticise my writing it may bother me more. We have a sense that some things are more important to us than others.

For many of us our sexuality is very close to our sense of who we are. Rejection of an invitation to go out can be felt very deeply. Rejection of an invitation to collaborate on a work project may be felt less deeply — even though the project may take up much more of our lives than a night out.

Our sense of rejection tells us that we care about the other person and that we care about some part of ourselves or our activities. The other element I think that contributes to how intensely we feel rejection is how it is done. Criticism can be voiced kindly or harshly. Having someone ignore me is different to them engaging in a tirade detailing what they dislike about me. It makes a difference to me if I think someone is being cruel or unfair.

Today’s Gospel

Sept 30, 2010

Lk 10 : 1 – 12

Jesus appointed seventy-two other disciples
whom he sent ahead of him in pairs
to every town and place he intended to visit.
He said to them,
“The harvest is abundant but the laborers are few;
so ask the master of the harvest
to send out laborers for his harvest.
Go on your way;
behold, I am sending you like lambs among wolves.
Carry no money bag, no sack, no sandals;
and greet no one along the way.
Into whatever house you enter, first say,
‘Peace to this household.’
If a peaceful person lives there,
your peace will rest on him;
but if not, it will return to you.
Stay in the same house and eat and drink what is offered to you,
for the laborer deserves his payment.
Do not move about from one house to another.
Whatever town you enter and they welcome you,
eat what is set before you,
cure the sick in it and say to them,
‘The Kingdom of God is at hand for you.’
Whatever town you enter and they do not receive you,
go out into the streets and say,
‘The dust of your town that clings to our feet,
even that we shake off against you.’
Yet know this: the Kingdom of God is at hand.
I tell you,
it will be more tolerable for Sodom on that day
than for that town.”

Reflection

Go on your Way…. Go on our way, Never Surrender always do your best, always think the best for you and your love one…

Go on your way,…. for me is same like Move on its not the end of the world. maybe for now its hard time will come it will be ok.. coz it is said ” in the end everything will ok, so if its not yet ok, it means its not the end…. wait for your turn,…. have faith in the Lord

Today’s Gospel Sept 29, 2010

Today’s Gospel

Sept 29, 2010

Jn 1 : 47 – 51

Feast of Saints Michael, Gabriel, and Raphael, archangels

Jesus saw Nathanael coming toward him and said of him,
“Here is a true child of Israel.
There is no duplicity in him.”
Nathanael said to him, “How do you know me?”
Jesus answered and said to him,
“Before Philip called you, I saw you under the fig tree.”
Nathanael answered him,
“Rabbi, you are the Son of God; you are the King of Israel.”
Jesus answered and said to him,
“Do you believe
because I told you that I saw you under the fig tree?
You will see greater things than this.”
And he said to him, “Amen, amen, I say to you,
you will see heaven opened
and the angels of God ascending and descending on the Son of Man.”

Today’s Gospel

Sept 28, 2010

Lk 9 : 51-56

When the days for Jesus to be taken up were fulfilled,
he resolutely determined to journey to Jerusalem,
and he sent messengers ahead of him.
On the way they entered a Samaritan village
to prepare for his reception there,
but they would not welcome him
because the destination of his journey was Jerusalem.
When the disciples James and John saw this they asked,
“Lord, do you want us to call down fire from heaven
to consume them?”

Jesus turned and rebuked them,
and they journeyed to another village.

Today’s Gospel Sept 27, 2010

Today’s Gospel

Sept 27, 2010

Lk 46 : 46-50

An argument arose among the disciples
about which of them was the greatest.
Jesus realized the intention of their hearts and took a child
and placed it by his side and said to them,
“Whoever receives this child in my name receives me,
and whoever receives me receives the one who sent me.
For the one who is least among all of you
is the one who is the greatest.”

Then John said in reply,
“Master, we saw someone casting out demons in your name
and we tried to prevent him
because he does not follow in our company.”
Jesus said to him,
“Do not prevent him, for whoever is not against you is for you.”

Reflection….

“Do not prevent him, for whoever is not against you is for you.”

let us love our Lord, love one another & our enemy…. for love is the greatest gift of all

Today’s Gospel Sept 25, 2010

Today’s Gospel

Sept 25, 2010

Lk 9 : 43b – 45

While they were all amazed at his every deed, Jesus said to his disciples, “Pay attention to what I am telling you. The Son of Man is to be handed over to men.” But they did not understand this saying; its meaning was hidden from them so that they should not understand it, and they were afraid to ask him about this saying.

Reflection

Pay attention to what I am telling you.

we must pay Attention for the every detail of our life… the people you love, & you care. listen to them with all your heart…. love one another & love your enemy…. you are the one responsible for all your action… be good & be nice….

Today’s Gospel Sept 24, 2010

Today’s Gospel

Sept 24, 2010

Lk 9 : 18-22

Once when Jesus was praying in solitude,
and the disciples were with him,
he asked them, “Who do the crowds say that I am?”
They said in reply, “John the Baptist; others, Elijah;
still others, ‘One of the ancient prophets has arisen.'”
Then he said to them, “But who do you say that I am?”
Peter said in reply, “The Christ of God.”
He rebuked them and directed them not to tell this to anyone.

He said, “The Son of Man must suffer greatly
and be rejected by the elders, the chief priests, and the scribes,
and be killed and on the third day be raised.”

Reflection

The Son of Man must Suffer Greatly….

God Suffer Greatly for us to be save… he crucified for our sin to be forgiven…

Today’s Gospel Sept 23, 2010

Today’s Gospel

Sept 23, 2010

Lk 9 : 7-9

Herod the tetrarch heard about all that was happening,
and he was greatly perplexed because some were saying,
“John has been raised from the dead”;
others were saying, “Elijah has appeared”;
still others, “One of the ancient prophets has arisen.”
But Herod said, “John I beheaded.
Who then is this about whom I hear such things?”
And he kept trying to see him.

Reflection

Who then is this about whom I hear such things?”

Who?? is a big question for me now….

I’m looking for my self. i know i change and for my change a lot of people are affected..

i need to find myself i need to be back for what i really i am… can pls anyone help me… i’m down and lovely, but i don’t know how to go out in this situation… i don’t know how to go and open up my self to others… i know its me… who has the problem i know its me who makes all of this mess. i hope i can manage this. i hope i can return to myself……

its me who is missing…. its me who need care

I Need to Find Me….

So Help Me God…

Today’s Gospel

Today’s Gospel

Sept 22, 2010

Lk 9 : 1-6

Jesus summoned the Twelve and gave them power and authority
over all demons and to cure diseases,
and he sent them to proclaim the Kingdom of God
and to heal the sick.
He said to them, “Take nothing for the journey,
neither walking stick, nor sack, nor food, nor money,
and let no one take a second tunic.
Whatever house you enter, stay there and leave from there.
And as for those who do not welcome you,
when you leave that town,
shake the dust from your feet in testimony against them.”
Then they set out and went from village to village
proclaiming the Good News and curing diseases everywhere.

Reflection

Jesus summoned the Twelve and gave them power and authority

were are all disciples of God, we are also given the power & Authority in our life, but it doesn’t mean we are going to abuse it. coz we are also given the chance to know the good & the evil…. and to choose what are we going to do by our free will…

so don’t act like you are the greatest, or your are the highest one… instead act like you are a child. coz its written “unless your are like this child so you may enter the heaven”

don’t let yourself eat by authority instead live a humble life, be compassionate to others stop comparing, and start loving every one around you….

Today’s Gospel

Today’s Gospel.

Sept 21, 2010

Mt 9:9-13

As Jesus passed by,
he saw a man named Matthew sitting at the customs post.
He said to him, “Follow me.”
And he got up and followed him.
While he was at table in his house,
many tax collectors and sinners came
and sat with Jesus and his disciples.
The Pharisees saw this and said to his disciples,
“Why does your teacher eat with tax collectors and sinners?”
He heard this and said,
“Those who are well do not need a physician, but the sick do.
Go and learn the meaning of the words,
I desire mercy, not sacrifice.
I did not come to call the righteous but sinners.”

Reflection

I did not come to call the righteous but the sinner

si Jesus at nag katawang tao hindi para makasama ang mga mabubuti kundi siya ay nagkatawang tao para sagipin tayong mga makakasalanan. kaya wag nating kalimutan ang kabutihan ng panginoon para sa atin. siya ay nag buwis ng buhay para tayo ay sagipin sa ating mga kasalanan, at para makasama sa kaluwalhatian pag dating ng tamang panahon.

kaya wag tayong matakot na manalig sa panginoon, siya ang ating sandalan,

“God is good all the time”